The dating game has a competitive landscape. You always have to put your best foot forward when you find someone interesting online or you're introduced to a potential match. What you may not know is that the combination of traits that attract you also attract other people, so good matches are valuable "commodities" that other people may be clamoring for.
To stay competitive, you have to make that first date count. Ensure that it goes well by learning the things you should avoid so you can secure a second date.
Avoid your past.
While it's fun to share memories from the past, you shouldn't talk about your exes or previous marriages. Just don't. A date can go extremely well but it'll take a nosedive the moment you start talking about former lovers and spouses.
You're there for your date but your date isn't there to hear about your romantic past. There is plenty of time for discussing previous relationships if you become a serious couple but there is no need to ruin a first date by prematurely spilling your guts.
Eyes on the prize.
Unfortunately, men flirting with waitresses occur all too often. Keep your eyes on your date and respect the time she reserved to meet up with you.
The same goes for the ladies. It doesn't matter if that waiter who winked at you made your heart skip a beat or if that guy across the table is eyeing on you like a hungry lion hunting for prey. You're here for your date, so save those flirty thoughts for later. Pay attention to each other and focus on trying to hit it off with your date instead of looking around for prospects.
Dress to impress.
Make a good impression by dressing well and not skimpy. It can be tempting to get his attention using your "assets" but unless you're just looking for a hookup, dress respectably.
Men are visual creatures. You don't want your date undressing you in his head the moment he sees you. On first dates, the only thing that needs unravelling is your personality!
Keep your gadgets.
Looking at your phone multiple times throughout the date is a big no-no. It gives the impression that you're not interested or you are looking for better prospects. While it is tempting to text or chat with a friend during the date, it's something you should definitely avoid.
Put your phone on silent mode and keep it in your pocket or purse. Your date deserves your undivided attention and it should be that way if you want to secure a second date.
Avoid looking needy.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make on a first date is talking about your future together. There is no guarantee that you will end up together so take it slow and keep things flowing smoothly. You may have hit it off right away, but don't jump the gun and talk about anything remotely related to a future together.
If you're a good match, then it will come to that in its own time. The first date is an essential courtship element, so keep it fun and light. Project to your date that you have a full and happy life, and that they will only add to it should you end up together.
There are a lot of things that can go bonkers on a first date, but if you avoid these major mistakes, you have a better chance at getting that second date.
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