They say shy guys are understanding, thoughtful, and keen observers. However, dating one can be quite a challenge for the ladies.
If your boyfriend locks himself in the room when you have visitors, avoids social activities, and is aloof, you've got some serious challenges coming at you especially if you are the complete opposite and you enjoy being around people.
To help you out are tips for dealing with your shy boyfriend.
Keep it low-key
Plan simple, low-key activities for your dates. This way, he doesn't get stressed out by being around too many people. He's more likely to enjoy your time together if you go on unique dates like having a leftovers picnic or mountain trekking.
Engage in activities that will help boost his self-esteem, such as baking, playing video games, and gardening. But the more important thing is that the both of you enjoy each other's company.
Avoid being too talkative
Don't feed his quietness with your endless chatter. Your shy boyfriend will be more at ease sitting beside you, even when there is no exchange of words. He'll enjoy your company regardless of the silence. The reality is that shy people tend to adversely compare themselves to other people who are more outgoing and chatty.
So, if you talk too much and he doesn't give an equal amount of response, he might feel that he's not good enough to be with you. In the stillness of your time together, try to make sweet gestures, like holding his hand or resting your head on his shoulder. You can also talk about topics he's comfortable with such as his interests or experiences.
Make gradual introduction of family members
Don't force him to meet your family too soon as this can put a lot of stress on him. You can introduce him to them gradually. Arrange a simple dinner together with him and your parents. This is less intimidating than being introduced to the whole family bunch.
You can invite a friend or two when you're hanging out with your boyfriend. This way, he'll start to feel more comfortable being around other people in your life. Help your shy boyfriend open up to your friends and family and let them know ahead about his story or personality. This will help them figure out how to deal with him once they meet.
You can also tell them about his interests and accomplishments. Chances are, he won't volunteer this information to people he just met. This will help boost his confidence because he knows someone believes in his capabilities.
Exhibit grace under pressure
Maintain a calm demeanor during awkward social situations. When he feels nervous around many people, be patient and show him that you are there to support him all the way.
For example, when you bring him to a corporate party in the office, hold his hand while proudly introducing him to your colleagues. This will make him feel valued.
Do your best to avoid harassing him about his shyness because it will only make his timid personality even worse. Also, avoid criticizing him in front of other people about how silent he is.
Encourage him and boost his confidence
Help him improve himself through positive feedback. Tell him things that will boost his confidence. It will make him feel that he is accepted and treasured.
Cite instances of him being kind, smart, and polite. Compliments will suppress his feelings of inadequacy, and will make him feel loved and appreciated.
Relax and have patience when dealing with a shy guy as they tend to take more time to adjust before they break out of their shell. Don't put any pressure on him to be as outgoing as you are, and be happy that you have a loving guy to be there for you.
Do you have any suggestions for getting a guy to come out of his shell? Share your suggestions in the comments below!
