It is an almost everyday problem for women to get their men to listen to them. A misunderstanding can easily occur when a man doesn't listen to his woman.
The reality is, men and women are undeniably different. A woman will never be more like a man as a man will never be more like woman. You can't force your man to be how you want him to be, but you can certainly change the way you approach him so he listens to you.
Here are few tips on how to get him to listen, without compromising your harmonious relationship with each other:
Be straightforward
Women are good at talking, particularly in getting into details about a specific topic. Women like to elaborate how things happened. Men, on the other hand, only want to know what actually happened, without all the mumbo jumbo, so that a solution can be provided in an instant.
If you want him to help you fix your problem, tell him directly what you want to do. Your man, as your stronghold, will feel your need for help. However, do not expect him to give you the same feedback that your female friends would do. He's a man, after all.
Be the best in timing
Timing is important. If your partner is doing something, don't bother him unless it's really for an important matter. Even if he's just watching his favorite TV show or doing something that he had planned to do for a while, know if it's the right time to talk to him.
Don't bother him right after he sets foot in the house from work either. He can either stressed out or too exhausted to listen. Men are good at focusing at only one thing, while women can be effortless multi-taskers. So, wait until the right time. It can be when both your heads are clear and are relaxed.
Observe body language when talking
Touching his hands, cheeks, or nose while talking will help you get a hold of him. Also, touch him as if you were caressing. Be gentle. This gentle feminine touch will not only get his attention, but also draw out his instinct to take care of you.
Jot down your concerns
If you have concerns or you need help in completing certain tasks, have a tangible tool, like a list, that will help him know what needs to be done. List down all the things you need him to fix or do for you.
Men are goal seekers who get motivated by doing manual tasks. So, make a list and give it to him. Each task that he ticks off the list will give him a bit of gratification, pride, enthusiasm, and a sense of duty.
Be a peacemaker
It's common for a person to get defensive when they're being criticized. We overlook the notion of criticism, rather than focusing on the issue. We tend to focus on the feeling of being attacked.
If you really want your partner to listen to you, select your words carefully before saying them. Instead of adding fuel to the fire, be a peacemaker. Try to speak as politely as you can, no matter what the issue is. He's is likely to lend you his ears when he sees that you are not agitated. In return, also be open minded to his response.
Getting a guy to listen to you won't be that difficult if you know how to catch his attention and get a hold of him. Just remember these tips and you won't have a problem relaying your message.
Do you know of other tips on making a guy listen? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
