When going out as a single woman, whether solo or with a group of friends, it is likely that you'll be approached by men who are interested in you. They may hit on you and flirt. It's the mating dance of modern humans, so to speak, and it is up to you to respond to their romantic advances in a way that will clearly communicate your intentions.
If you're unsure of how to respond or are too shy to think of a reply, this guide will help you discover the ways to respond to a guy hitting on you.
If you're interested...
Be polite, smile, and reply to his comments in a friendly way. It also helps to be clear with your relationship status, so avoid giving him cryptic signals or else you risk him misunderstanding you. He may start complimenting you, so return the gesture if you think there is a good chance that he's a right match for you.
He approached you because he's interested, so reciprocate by talking with him for a while. A few flirty exchanges and tantalizing smiles will help him open up to you more, which will help reveal his personality. Taking time to talk to him will help you determine whether he is a good match for you, so don't skimp on this part even if you're absolutely sure that you want to go out with him.
Be the one to offer your phone number if you think you hit it off well. This way, he'll be able to contact you if he wants to ask you out on a date. It helps to have him call your number right after you give it to him; simply use your phone's call log to attach his name to the number. So when he calls, your phone will ID his number and you won't have to ask who's calling. There's nothing worse than having him think that you forgot about your flirty encounter.
When he calls, don't play mind games and answer the call right away. Always be open to helping with the plans and do all you can to find out where the romance will lead.
If you're not interested...
Remain polite, but tell him respectfully that you are not interested or aren't available. It is important to be clear with this otherwise he may think that you are trying to lead him on or playing hard to get.
If he keeps pressing you, be frank and reiterate that you're not interested. If he keeps flirting despite your clear refusal, move to another area. It helps to have a group of friends to fall back to if things go badly. Let them know that there's a guy who just won't stop. A few mean glares from your friends can effective in laying off a persistent man.
In case you are alone and he doesn't stop, then firmly tell him to. Express that you are feeling harassed and that you can easily call the police if he doesn't stop.
If you're a guy...
It can be polarizing to be hit on by another guy, but stop and think before you feel offended. Gay men often approach men who they think are attractive so it's best to take it as a compliment.
Being clear is extremely important here, so communicate clearly that you don't swing that way and it should be fine. Say something like "I'm flattered, but I have different preferences."
You see, there are lots of approaches to being hit on. It just depends on how you feel about who approached you. Just remember to always be polite and be firm when necessary.
What's the most memorable moment you had of someone hitting on you? Let us know in the comments!
