If you often go out to clubs to look for a date, chances are, there are several other guys there who have the same agenda as you. That's why you need to learn how to get a woman's attention. In a sea of men, you must learn how to stand out. Here are some tips on how to do exactly just that.
Look your best.
Your appearance will be the first thing that she sees, so be sure to look presentable. Take a shower, fix your hair, and trim or groom your beard if you have a long one. If you look good with a little stubble, keep it. Opt for a nice clean shirt and pants, and ditch the worn out T-shirt and jeans combo. If you make an effort to look good, she'll make an effort to look your way. Women appreciate neatness in general.
Be confident.
Exude confidence, but don't be cocky. Keep a straight posture, with your chest and shoulders back, and stomach in. Walk like a man, not like lazy teenage boy. Whether you're standing or sitting down, don't slouch. Also, don't forget to smile!
Make yourself visible.
Don't hide in the corner while you're eyeing a woman at the club, or at any place. You're there to get her attention, not to stalk her. When other people see you in the corner staring at a woman, they might get a negative impression. So, stay in a place where she can see you and she'll possibly notice you. Put yourself out there and be visible.
Look her in the eyes.
Once you find a woman that you like among the crowd, make eye contact with her. That's how she is going to know that you're interested. If you act shy and avoid her gaze, she'll never know you're trying to get her attention and might just go for another man who has been trying to get noticed by her too. So, look her in the eyes and smile. If she smiles back, it could be a sign that you can approach her.
Practice what you're going to say.
Talking to a woman for the first time can be nerve-wracking. It might even leave you speechless sometimes. So, practice what you're going to say before you approach her. If you're at a club, try asking her what she's drinking. You can even offer to buy her another one. However, you don't want to sound too rehearsed. Act natural!
Talk to her.
When you've already gotten her attention, go on and talk to her. Remember to be polite and respectful. Exhibit good manners and never say anything that could offend her, such as sexist and racist remarks. Make eye contact instead of letting your eyes roam around the room, or her body. And when you talk to her, use simple language. Don't try too hard to sound smart and just be yourself.
Get to know her.
While you may be trying to impress her, never brag about yourself during your conversation. You may have a lot of achievements to be proud of, but you should avoid talking about yourself too much. The conversation must be an exchange of opinions and ideas.
Ask her about the kinds of things she's interested in. Make her feel that you really want to get to know her by giving her time to speak, listening actively, and keeping your focus on her. You can even bring up some of the things she mentioned to let her know that you've really been paying attention. Don't forget to make her laugh too!
To get a woman to give you the time of day, make her want to choose you over the other guys who've been trying to get her attention too. Make her feel like you're the best choice. And prove that you are!
Do you know of other ways to get a woman's attention? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
