One of the best places meet new guys is at a bar, which is normal since it's usually where people go to find someone they can mingle or flirt with. Everyone is having a fun relaxing time drinking and talking. However, with all the socializing and noise going on around you, it can be quite hard to catch a guy's attention and get him to talk to you.
While your chances of making a deep connection with a guy you met at the bar are slim, chatting him up is a great way to find out if there's a connection between you.
Here are some tips.
Mind your body language
As mentioned, there can be a lot of distractions at a bar. It's loud and there are a lot of things going on around you. So, what you can do is take advantage of body language.
Approach him with a smile on your face. This gives off a friendly vibe making him feel at ease around you. When you talk, maintain eye contact. Lean forward when he speaks.
Also, you can use the surrounding noise as an excuse to get closer to him when you have something to say. It helps to wear a little perfume too! Guys love girls who smell good, so a pleasant scent will definitely get his attention.
Engage in a light Q&A
Ask him a few questions, but keep it light. It's impossible to talk about serious topics inside a bar because of the noise and the general atmosphere. Instead, stick to the basics.
You can also take ideas from things around you to come up with a topic, such as the kind of beverage he's having, the music, or the overall atmosphere of the bar. Anything is possible. Just be as interesting and creative as possible and he'll want to spend more time talking with you.
Show interest
Given that you've already engaged in a little Q&A with your guy, show him that you're interested in what he has to say by maintaining eye contact. Ask follow-up questions to show that you have really been paying attention.
Also give him genuine compliments every now and then. Guys like getting an ego boost. If he's wearing something really fashionable or he has a really nice haircut, let him know. If you get along with him, drop a few hints that you want to get to know him more, or you want to take the conversation somewhere else, like a quiet cafe, diner, or restaurant.
However, if he's not as interesting as you thought he would be, politely excuse yourself from the conversation and move on to the next guy. You don't have to settle for the first guy you approach if there's no chemistry.
Use the magic of touch
Since conversations tend to be limited when you're inside a bar, make up for it through physical contact. Touch his arm, brush up against him while you dance, or do some playful, light hitting when you find yourself laughing at his jokes. This lets him know that you're interested in him.
However, be sure that you're really interested in him before you use the magic of touch. Don't give him mixed signals if you have no plans of seeing him again.
Know when he's not interested
Let's face it. Not every guy you approach at the bar will be interested in you. Observe his responses and his body language. If he keeps looking around, smiling or winking at other girls, or checking his phone while he's in a conversation with you, there's a big chance that he's not really into you. So, spare yourself from the embarrassment and find someone else.
When you overcome the challenge of chatting up a guy at a bar, especially for the first time, you won't have a hard time doing it again next time. Just remember these tips and you're good to go!
Do you know of other ways to talk to a guy at a bar? Share your ideas in the comments below!
